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Tuesday, February 15, 2011

What Do You Think?

Last night, I received a text message from Rico de Buco saying, 'Contentment are just for people who are lazy and weak.', and I truely agree.

I remembered reading a book about being confronted by reality and being hopeless. A lot of successful people obviously don't have this problem, the poorest people is aware of it but not being confronted by poverty, but the big problem here are the people in between...the middle class.

Younger people are very excited to reach their dreams, when some gets older and cannot make it in life, they lower their dreams down to a level that they would just say, 'at least meron', or, 'wag na lang mansion, maski 1 bedroom house pwede na...'.
A lot of people make creative excuses just to stay in their comfort zones and not aim for success. One of their favorite excuses is ‘I’m contented with my life now’…but the psychologist author of the book I read said that the underlying thought behind is, ‘I’m afraid to get out of my comfort zone and be rejected by people, or what other people might say.’, and, ‘well, at least there are a lot of people around me who are just like me’. Even if deep down in their hearts, they want to have more, they just don’t want to pay the price of success…they’re lazy and weak.

There is nothing wrong in aiming for bigger, and more things in life. Bo Sanchez said that our Father is a rich God, you can ask Him bigger and more things. It is just that, God wants you to work for it to know the worth of what He’ll give you.

Some people would say that ‘money won’t make you happy’, but have you thought of ‘no money doesn’t make you automatically happy’? At least having money will give you choices in life.

Money is not evil, it just magnifies who you are. If you are a bad person already, gaining more money or success could just make you worse and vice versa. The true rich people have hearts, they build foundations and help the poor. I remember what Henry Sy said before, ‘I give not because I have more, I give because I know the feeling of having nothing’.

The thin line that separate rich from poor is MINDSET. This is why poor people often get poorer, while rich people get richer.

Simple life is not bad, but if you want to have more options in life, you should aim for more, bigger, and richer life.

Monday, December 27, 2010

Power of Emotions: Babaguhin Ka

The three most powerful emotions are Sexual desire, Happiness, and Anger.  And yes, these emotions not only affect your moods, but can also affect your appearance.

The emotions of Happiness can make you look younger and brighter as it relaxes your mind and spirit, it also injects chemicals that slow down ageing.  Same with sexual desire (it is the most powerful emotion), but unlike happiness, it requires more energy (not just physical energy hehe) and it can drain you if you don't use it wisely. The advantage is, since the energy is more, then the focus is more.  Anger is one powerful emotion as well as sadness; it will affect your mood and appearance: look older and grumpier.  And like sexual desire, it will drain you, so if you don't focus your energy into something will be useless. Kaya pag galit ka, magplano ka ng revenge plot, wag ka kagad umatake (joke lang).

I remember the story of the model of Leonardo for Jesus in his painting, “The Last Supper”.  This guy has a very calm face that made Leonardo chose him to be the model for Jesus.  The only problem that Leonardo has now is his model for Judas; he likes to have a model that has a face of despair and detest but he couldn’t find one and it took Leonardo a couple of years to find a person.  After he found a guy with the face that he wanted, he painted Judas. After painting Judas, the model cried and said, “you don’t really recognize me?”, then Leonardo said, “no, I’m sorry”.  The man said in a gloomy tone, “I am the man whom you painted as Jesus years ago”.  “I was lost… I was angry and became sad.  I don’t remember the feeling of happiness anymore”.

You see, happiness, anger, and sexual drive are all decisions...decide wisely.

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Belief Plus Conviction: Beautiful

One of the people I really admire the most is an example of courage, faith, and passion.  She is always the smart and intelligent among her family. Since her childhood, high expectations never pressured her and instead kept on meeting it.  Starting from elementary up to college, she always had the high grades and awards, but at the middle of her college days, she started to realize that what she really wanted in life she is not getting it from formal education.  Then she kinda lost her way; she jumped from different one course to another, shifting and trying.  People in her family started to put her down and say things about her that she became a failure.

She met a guy who's the same mind like hers, a visionary and a passionate person with the fullness of life.  When they decided to get married, a lot of people discouraged them because according them, they will have no future because both of them didn't graduate from college.  The couple still did it anyway (kulit eh no?) and promised to prove them wrong.  They stick on their belief that people don't need a formal education to live a good life.

After a couple of years, they decided to run a franchise of their family (Anis' family) business.  They took the risk and had the courage to pursue their sound plan.  They tried and failed a lot of times, but having the new-age-knowledge in business and marketing but low in budget for advertising, they started to use the word of mouth strategy (I personally helped ha!) and a couple of social networking sites in promoting their business and thus building a name for their resto business.

Now, all people in Dumaguete or in Silliman University know or have tried eating at their restaurant (neva's pizza dumaguete branch).  They maintained their idea of "client-business-partnership" concept.  They brought exemptional service that topped most of the restos in the town.  They thought of their employees and their customers first because they believe that money will come naturally if you help people.  They did it very well and now they have a good life.
Both of them are college drop-outs, but it didn't matter...the most important thing for them is their dreams.  They have the faith and belief, and they had a strong living a good life and they never stop inspiring me to do more.  In our family (mother side), Ate Dindee is the most successful.

Photos: Daphne Padilla, Anis Padilla, Sulayman Padilla, and Imaya Padilla.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Article From Bo Sanchez - Good Read

Have You Ever Felt This Pain Of Wanting To Help Others But You Couldn’t?

My 85-year old mother lives a comfortable life.  That’s because I give her an allowance each month.  She also knows that if she needs more money, for anything whatsoever (“Bo, I want to go bungee jumping” or “I want to go crocodile hunting”), she knows she can call me up anytime.

Imagine for a moment if I just had a Job (which you know means, “Just Over Broke”).  Then she wouldn’t be very comfortable.  She’d probably have to sell her house.  And she’d have to live like how other old people in our country live—dependent on their SSS or GSIS Pension.

Thank God her son is generous and good-looking and a little bit crazy too.

Change Your Financial Habits

A lot of people want to help their parents.

And siblings.
And friends.

And the poor around them.

But many times, they can’t.

Because they don’t have enough.
It’s a terrible feeling.  I’ve been there.  I’ve experienced that pain in my gut—and never once liked it.
But friend, I don’t experience that feeling anymore.
Because I’ve changed my financial habits.
I can help my mother because I can. I run multiple small businesses that are earning very well.

Here’s the truth: People are rich or poor because of their financial habits. There are only two kinds of financial habits: Poor man’s habits and Rich man’s habits.

Years ago, I’ve thrown away the Poor man’s habits from my life. And I’ve learned the Rich man’s habits—wonderful habits that anyone can learn. (These are thought patterns, mindsets, and attitudes that are essential to change your financial life.)

I’d like to teach these powerful habits to you.

Because I want you to experience what I experience now—the ability to help the people I love.’t/

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

Celebrate Express

Jump, shout, dance, treat yourself, these are some of the ways we celebrate things. When do we celebrate? Most of the times we celebrate during the important events in our lives; these are during birthdays, graduations, Christmas, promotions, anniversaries, and weddings. It is almost automatic in our system to celebrate in those memorable occasions. But should we limit it to those only?

Our successes are also important episodes in our lives that we should celebrate. When we do something good, or we finished a goal, and maybe achieved something, celebrating is a good way to imprint a positive point in our life for our subconscious mind to remember. In celebrating, we create the pictures and feelings of happiness, and our minds only remember pictures and feelings. We inclined to happiness during celebrations, thus, making us healthier and more optimistic. We should also celebrate the successes of others because our mind can’t distinguish if it is ours or not, as long as we create the pictures and the feelings, they would process that it is our success, according to journal of psychology.

So next time when we think we’ve done something worth celebrating, we should celebrate. When other people have their own successes and achievements, we should celebrate it with them. When it is already properly imprinted in our subconscious, we will attract success in our lives naturally.

Start thinking what are the things you’ve done or happened today and bring out the celebration cakes! or maybe you can book for the celebration hotel☺

photo by: pami and lee durley

Business Object

They said that if you ask Filipinos if they want to have a business, they will always say “yes”. That should not be the question if that’s the case, it should be, “why aren’t you still in business?”. If you ask them, what kind of business do they want to have, these are the usual things they would say: computer shop, Laundromat, franchise or make own cart business, restaurant, small convenience store, and gym. Little do they know that owning these micro/small business is not considered as ‘businesses’ at all. In the four quadrants given by Robert Kiyosaki (Employee, Self-Employed/Professional, Business Owner, Investor), these only belong to self-employed. Why? Because being in a small business only makes you your own boss but not an entrepreneur; you can’t just leave your business when you want to go on a vacation. The reason is simple, you are the only businessman in those kinds of businesses, and other people are just employees. They do not care about your business. When you are in a big business however, you are in a big conglomerate with a number of businessmen as your partners; these people are stakeholders that would care about the business because they also own the business. This means, you can retire. It’s a good way to start and use it as an experience for later when you are ready to run your own big business. Sad to say that a lot of Filipino people does not know these facts, while some although they want to have a big business, they don’t know how.

Big business is the kind of business that uses the power of leverage, and this will give you retirement because it gives you the residual income. There are three big businesses; one is putting up your own company and anticipating the ‘big’ involve, big capital, big system effort, and big risk. The second one is franchise, I’m not talking about the cart franchise, I’m talking about the likes of McDonalds, Jollibee, etc. The only problem in this business is the capital because you are already buying the system and the brand so the system effort and the risk are lowered tremendously. The last one is the Network Distribution/Distribution/Virtual Franchise business. These businesses reduce all the ‘big’ in the business except for the big income that you’ll get. It is a distribution system that uses complete business partnerships and you can start at a part-time basis/ home based business if you are an employee. You can use their utilities, have complete trainings and company benefits, and create your own franchise. The sad thing though is that the system of this business was copied by a lot of scam companies around the world, so you better do some research before partnering with a company. Make sure that the company is listed in the New York Stock Exchange.

I also suggest that if you want to run your own business someday or in starting a business, you have to know the requirements; first is you have to love sales and marketing, then you have to read books, you also have to have a positive attitude at all times, start practicing the use of business cards, and lastly practice as soon as possible to learn from the experiences.

Monday, October 4, 2010

Excitement Urination

What is excitement? Is it only for kids? Does everybody enjoys the feeling of excitement?

Remember when we were still in school? It was the happiest moments in our lives, we are full of joy and thrill, and we look forward to the years to come. We visualize the things that are bound to come to our lives after graduation. When we graduate, we have high hopes and big dreams that a beautiful life will come to us. As we grow old, we start to dilapidate, it is not that we lose our dreams; we simply become “realistic”. We tend to lower down what we want because we start to lose hope when we realize that we are not getting anywhere. We lose happiness and joy , and the drive to strive harder. Why? Because we simply lose our excitement.

Excitement is an essential part of our life, and it is required to live our life fruitfully and enjoyable. Excitement gives us the overwhelming happiness, pleasure and success. The feeling of being alive and being full of life is a result of being excited all the time. It has been said that if you want to be happy, you have to do good, if you want to be happy then you have to be successful. But according to the book I’ve read, psycho-cybernetics, it should be the other way around. You have to be happy first before you can do good things, and you have to be happy before you can be successful. And I agree.

But what drives excitement? If you notice, excitement is something that comes from what we are looking forward to, may it be a person, or an occasion, etc. The craze or the obsession of what you want to have or happen, or simply what you want to do that drives your excitement. In simple way of saying it, passion drives our excitement. If we are passionate of something that we do because we want a particular result, we tend to become excited about it and, hence, the joy and happiness.

We must be excited every day, before we sleep and after waking up. We have to be thankful every day because a new day brings new hope in our lives. We should be giggling and shaking with enthusiasm, just like when urinating, we shake uncontrollably (I’m not sure if that also happens to women hehe). The excitement should flow from us towards the things that what we do and the things we believe in. I call it, the excitement urination.

Saturday, September 25, 2010


A lot of people say that in order for you to be wealthy is to finish your studies with good grades and apply to big companies, after that, you'll have a great life.  Successful people say that you don't need proper schooling to achieve wealth and success, school doesn't teach us what to do in real life, but still school is important.

Which do you think is true? For me I'd follow what successful people say simply because they are have the life I wanted.  Think of it, almost 90% of world's richest are either drop-outs or just had a little formal education, so I guess they are right.  But if they know that formal education is not required to be successful then why do they tell kids to study? The answer is competence.

Having good grades, being a class leader, having awards and honors in school is a good thing if you want to have a wonderful and successful life; it's not because, like what unsuccessful people say, "to be hired by big companies and have a good life with good pay and benefits", it's because if you are a class leader and having honors, you have competence.  You strive to be more than average and be better (or different) with others, you think and plan out-of-the-box and have the courage to be different, to commit mistakes, to deal things on your own.  Your honors, awards, and recognition is a result of your competence. Having high competence gives you higher chances to succeed.

Competence is what should people focus on and not the grades that you can use to apply for a job.  There's nothing wrong with a job, as most successful people say, but to end in a job is crazy.  After being competent in school, you try to be competent with your job and with every other people to have promotion.  Competence builds you up, your courage, your self-confidence, and your self-belief.  It won't guarantee you success but will give you higher chances of success.  It's the same thing if you put your child to Ateneo, DLSU, or gives them higher chances but will not guarantee them success (it will still be about competence).  Study everything that you can get with your job or school for you to grow and gain more skills so you can use it in the future.

The only way to go is business.  If you want to live the life that you want or the life that you want for your family, then go on a business. As most successful businessmen would say, "start as early as you can to have a lot of time to practice", true becaue according to statistics, you will lose your business 3-4 times before you succeed.  Business and job requires competence but they give different incomes.  If you have competence, then might as well use it in business.

Now, if you are studying, working, or in a business, the bottom line is competence.  Don't use school or fomal education as your basis of success.  Where you are now is the measure of your competence.  Think of it and do something about it.

Robert Kiyosaki said in his book, "the most dangerous advice that you can give to your children is to get good grades, go to a big company, get promoted and have a good life".  You will not use everything you learned in school in real life.  Instead, focus on COMPETENCE and measure it with your results. Dream big dreams to level up your competence.
And as what my mentor always say, "If you don't want to dream and have a good life, please don't go and steal other people's dreams."

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Bill Gates' School Speech - Very True

Rule 1: Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2: The world doesn't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Thursday, August 19, 2010

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